I’m a lot more tolerant than I used to be. I’m much more calm and relaxed than I was 20 years ago. i’ve learned to let things go. I’ve learned to be authentic, I’ve learned to be me.
So several points on this blog post by Mark and Angel really resonated with me. In being more authentic, I tolerate less destructive things in my life. If you want to read the original post, the link is above – but here are my factors to succeed…
People who bring you down. – Don’t spend time dealing with people who are like emotional vacuum cleaners. They suck energy out of you and grind you down until you are as miserable as they are. Rise above it and keep calm
A work environment or career field you hate. – You’re at work a long time. Surround yourself with people and leaders you respect. Do work you enjoy and love. Don’t get embroiled in politics, back biting or bitching. It’s ok to say no. Do not let yourself get bullied. It is your job – not your life…
Your own negativity. – You have the power to change the way you feel. Every new day can be a fresh start. Celebrate the beauty of the new day, the drizzle, the crisp cold mornings, the fresh wind. Enjoy nature. Find something small to enjoy and turn around the cycle of negativity you’ve got into
Unnecessary miscommunication. – If you don’t know what someone wants ask them. Ask for feedback. Be kind with feedback. Make someone happy, not frustrated with you. Try to diffuse anger
A disorganized living and working space. – Tidy desk tidy mind. Spend some time doing your life laundry and clearing out things you no longer need. Physical clutter often relates to emotional clutter. See how much better you feel when everything is in its place
Pressure to fit in with the crowd. – Be your own person. Try not to get talked into things you really don’t want to do. It’s easy to say no – and very satisfying when you have done it.
Fear of change. –Feel the fear and do it anyway. You might love the new way of doing things. Do something every day that scares you – you might find that you’ve found something new you love
Being unprepared. – You will avoid the terror of getting things wrong and the humiliation afterwards. If you’re prepared for anything, then you can conquer the world..
Inaction. –There are three types of people. Those who make things happen, those who watch what happens, and those who wonder what happened. Be one of the folks that makes things happen…
But most of all – be yourself. You’re the best at it, and there is no one that can take your place…
Eileen is a social business strategist, ZDNet columnist and author of Working The Crowd: Social Media Marketing for Business. Contact her to find out how she can help your business extend its reach.
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