Is it usual to send naked photos of yourself to someone you have only just met? Tumblr user aheartbeatchanged did not think so.
She captured the exchange from the dating site Let’s Date.
There was an exchange of messages where she complained about the unsolicited picture, his use of the word ‘your’ instead of ‘you’re’. you can see the rest of the screenshots at the Daily Dot.
The guy told her that she was a prude and ‘no wonder your(sic) single’ she snapped. She sent him a message saying that since he was pretty easy to find on Facebook she was going to send his mom screencaps of this conversation to ‘show how you treat women’.
Sadly her Tumblr page can not be found so we will not be able to see the results of her actions. But if the comments underneath the Happy Place post are anything to go by, I suspect that the deletion was either due to:
1: A totally fabricated post designed to generate social media attention, fun, shock value, pass-along value
2: Trolling on her Tumblr account criticising her decision to alert the guys mum
3: Moderation on her Tumblr account due to posting of offensive material#
There are many sites with images that are much more explicit than the image that aheartbeatchanged posted so the Tumblr must have been removed due to the level of comments on her post. The comments on the Daily Dot and other sites are evenly split both praising the woman and condemning her for her actions.
Let’s Date has also clarified that "while the users may have met on Let’s Date, the inappropriate photo was not sent via Let’s Date as the app’s messaging platform does not allow users to send pictures to each other, they are only able to send text."
If the sending of naked images or yourself are now the normal state of flirting during initial dating rituals, why do some people get upset when these unsolicited images are sent. It it is unusual to send naked images of yourself during initial courtship, why are people so bothered that she complained to his mum on Facebook.
But the question that lost of us would love to know is, how did his mom deal with the public naming and shaming request? Did she ignore it, humor it, or totally tan his hide?
Eileen is a social media strategist and consultant at Amastra, a columnist at ZDNet and author of Working The Crowd: Social Media Marketing for Business. Contact Eileen to find out how she can elevate your brand and help your business become more social.